The Couple in a Relationship Crisis. The Road from “Creation” to Conflict

It has been written and it will still be written in many books about couple relationships. They have always represented a source of inspiration for many writers and teachers, that sometimes it creates the impression that the secrets of a harmonious relationship are known by all. "In reality, we have not reached that stage. I happens that we read and we have no reaction, or we hear but don’t understand" (Barcelona, 2000, 9-10). But will there be any perfect relationships? Or is it just this that gives color and makes them more beautiful?! I made a microstudy in which I have analyzed the informations received from five psychoterapists regarding the couple's problems in crisis situations. According to that information, informal support offered by family, friends and/or colleagues do not to help partners in the process of resolving the conflict situation, but on the contrary, they are raising the uncertainty of the partners. These specialists also confirm the need of formal support and the way in which it contributes to the improvement of the situation, taking advantage of interacting with a neutral person. It seems as though no matter how much we get in depth of this research, the dose of subjectivity and personal note of the partners make situations differ, and the road from training to conflict to be always different.

Keywords: couple relationship, couple development, conflict, crisis situation, social support